REVEALED! Why Some People Choose To Remain Single…Find Out If Any Of These Applies To You

Irrespective of the dictums outlined in religious texts and principles about the importance of marriage; the decision whether to go in for one or to remain single is essentially personal in nature where the questions of scriptures or rules of theologians should not come into play. This is particularly true of the current situation marked by extremes of stress, strain and struggle; in spite of all its techno savvy benefits.

·         With much thrust upon competition and rat race; a man’s common place existence is one of extreme struggle and strain. This in turn is working havoc on marital and other relationships based on close bonding and trustfulness. Sometimes the sheer apprehension that things may not work out fine on home front has compelled people desirous of climbing up the social order to stay single.

·         People with a sharp or obsessive focus on career and personal growth often prefer staying single rather than bracing up to the duties and obligations of marriage. Paucity of time and personal inability to share and care keep them away from relationships and marriage.

·         Other than social and economic factors, there are people who preferred singularity over marital status on account of their lack of commitment. Rather than going for the hassles of serious relationships leading to marriage or live in stands, certain carefree and happy go lucky individuals choose to remain single.

·         It is true that humans, a part of the civilized society long for and cherish freedom. But it is equally important to note that there are ones including both men and women who cherish freedom to the point of selfishness. It is important or rather imperative that they stay single on account of their inflexibility and ill adjustability to come around to share and care for others. So the inability to compromise and need for absolute freedom from interference or disciplining goad people to stay single.

·         Just as inability to share emotionally can be problematic for some, leading them to the choice of singularity; likewise inability to share financially can be a possible reason. With over magnified stories of spouses nagging for money and possession doing the rounds; the choice of better management of financial prospects keep people specially men away from marriage.

·         People staunchly egoistical without the ability to change or modify often choose to remain single. With their all encompassing ego being predominantly effective, such folks are unable to come around or modify to the ways of better halves or partners.

·         Marriages leading to divorce or relationships leading to break ups is one of the well trodden phenomenon. With far reaching repercussions any form of break up or separation can turn out to be tremendously heart wrenching. If one is not into a relationship of the serious order, one need not worry or anticipate such a turn of event. Thus fear of separation or one exposed to too many separations in the formative years of childhood may give way to fears and mental blocks about marriage.

·         In spite of there being too many moral inhibitions about indulging in s****l activities involving multiplicity of partners, similar orientation involving different partners is a well established reality. People beyond the bounds of marriage or serious partnership often take the advantage of their self inflicted singularity so as to indulge in s****l revelry. Even married ones may be equally guilty. But the fact that one is single helps one to feel free.

·         Sometimes staying single over a long period of time on account of some genuine issues of financial concern helps one to pick on the right partner or soul mate. Religious devotion may also draw an individual into a life of chastity and celibacy. Irrespective of your status chosen, there are some basic issues and principles of the civilized society to abide by. Regardless of the fact whether one is single or otherwise; we are all expected to maintain the minimum standards of decency and self control.

Source – Anchorvibe

Ladies!!! 5 Main Reasons Why African Men Patronize Prostitutes – Research

When it comes to patronizing the ‘women of easy virtues’, most people would swear that a lot of married men would not be guilty of such. Surprisingly, a recent survey says the opposite.

When you look around you, you would be surprised to see ‘very responsible’ men who supposedly look too innocent to even steal a glance at a s*x worker, let alone ‘doing it with her, find time to “hang out” with these women. Shockingly, from recent survey, a good percentage of men (especially married ones), do patronize prostitutes.

The statistics and reasons given as to why some of these men prefer sleeping with harlots will shock you. Well, THE TRANSFORM BLOG spoke with a good number of Nigerian men and it would be worthy to note at this point that some of these men have at one point or the other paid for s*x before.

1) Men Prefer To Sleep With Hotter Women

Yes, you read right. Most married/single men complained that the moment an African woman is married, she losses her guard and most times cannot even ‘try’ to be as radiant as she used to be before she got married.

“I have been with women and i must say that the hottest women I’ve ever had s*x with is a s*x workers …Most of these harlots look s*xy, ravishing and enticing. This kind of ‘hotness’ I am saying can only be prostitutes. My woman is too used to me to starting feigning ‘hot’!, a top Nigerian civil servant reveals.

Most Nigerian men prefer a stunning woman to the one that is not properly dressed.

2) When They Pay For It, They Derive More Pleasure.

Every man wants to get every drop of satisfaction from the money he paid for a job. Most men reveal that they feel more comfortable asking for different styles and s*xual postures from a prostitutes without their ego being tampered with.

I am paying for it, so I make sure I get the best out of it. And more so, I can ask her to do any style for me without me being looked at as a pervert. Asking her to do what I want won’t make me lose my respect and lots of other things which i can make known here’‘, 42-year-old Emmanuel from Asaba revealed.

Most of them said there’s something very hot in being able to ask for what you want in bed and get it, no questions asked. (Although one guy did admit he paid a prostitute once so that SHE could be in charge.) But generally, they all admitted to being more open about what they wanted and more physically satisfied when they paid for s*x. Emotionally, of course, remains to be seen.

3) Men love fantasy.

Trying new things really matter to men a lot when s*x is concerned. This is because at a point in time, it gets boring and it is the fantasy and s*xual adventures that you try out that keeps you going. So most men go out to have this adventure if they cannot get it at home.

“I like to try things. When I pay a prostitute, I’m not worried about what I ask for. Nothing shocks them”, Mr kelvin, a 45 year old banker from Benin revealed.

4) Men like the fastest route to having s*x.

“Getting a prostitute is so easy: no strings attached, you can choose [the woman you want] before you purchase, then they arrive at your door. Couldn’t be easier.” All men used different methods of visiting prostitutes. While some revealed they used some websites, a larger percentage revealed that they visited a brothel and another set got the prostitute’s number via personal connection. But they all agreed: it was the quickest way to get s*x when they felt the urge.

5) They want to avoid complications.

Men prefer a s*xual experience with no drama and no commitment whatsoever. For the married ones, they do not want s*x that they have to beg for, men prefer s*x without all the promises and all.

“Men want to have s*x without all the drama. I just want to have s*x without the need to made you to beg for it. I want s*x without my wife reminding me all what needs to be done in the house instead of having s*x at the moment”, another middle-aged, Businessman revealed.

What do you think about these reasons? Are they good enough reasons for men to patronize prostitutes? What do you think wives can do to prevent this?

LADIES: 5 Things All African Men Want In A Relationship [Must Read & Learn]

 Men are often reluctant to talk about their needs in intimate relationships. Whether social conditioning or an inability to communicate our needs are to blame, men (who tend to be the less communicative partners in intimate relationships) are prone to silently suffering when their emotional needs aren’t being met by their partners. Whether you are a man or a woman reading this article, this will give you greater clarity into yourself /partner and what your/their needs are in your intimate relationship. Let’s put an end to the needless fighting due to miscommunication, the unnecessary s*x-less nights, and the verbal shut-downs. Read through these tips and I promise you’ll never regret it and without further ado let’s take a Closer look at our  five things men want in a relationship. as you

1) Praise And Approval

Men have infamously tender egos. We need frequent reassurance about ourselves, our career paths, our efficacy as partners, our s****l prowess, and our attractiveness (among other things). I have had countless men saying that their partners rarely let them know what they like about them. While it may be true that men need relatively less frequent verbal praise than their female counterparts, this isn’t the kind of gesture that requires keeping score. Why not just have more of a good thing? So ladies, let your praise loose. Tell your man exactly what you find attractive about him. Let him know what physical features of his are your favourites. Tell him how attractive you find it when he says something a certain way, when he accomplishes something, or when he takes you on a date. Your praise won’t make him cocky; it will help him feel loved. And (bonus) the more you praise his positives, the more you will see them.

 

2) Respect

Men feel respect as love. If he feels like you disapprove of him, his career, or the things that he believes to be integral to who he is as a person, he will have a hard time trusting and loving you. The thought process behind that being “If she doesn’t respect who I am at my core, then how can she really want what is best for me?” If a man’s partner doesn’t respect his path or mission in life, then he will find it very difficult to feel anything other than an anxious need to distance himself from her

 

3) A Sense Of s****l Connection

Men and women both connect through s*x and communication, but generally, women connect better through communication and men connect better through s*x. Does this mean that men need to have s*x with their intimate partners every day in order to feel connected? Not necessarily. Men, more often than not, connect through indicators of sexuality just as much as they do through s*x. Allow me to explain… Often, a man will initiate s*x just to make sure that you are still sexually available to him. So, to my man-loving readers out there, if he reaches across the bed for you, even showing the willingness to embrace him, to kiss him deeply, and to engage him could be enough to make him feel loved (not that the follow through isn’t enjoyable). This lack of awareness around women needing to connect through words and men needing to connect through s*x can sometimes turn into an unfortunate and rapid downward spiral. She doesn’t feel like opening sexually until she feels connected to him, but he finds it difficult to communicate with her because they haven’t been physical with each other in days. Talk with your partner and ask what specifically helps them feel the most loved so you can avoid these unintentional standoffs.

 

4) Emotional Intimacy

From a very young age, men are taught to avoid appearing weak at all costs. Perceived “weakness” includes things like complaining, divulging fears or concerns, and expressing self-doubt or worry. A man’s partner is his safe space to fall. He can expose the cracks in his armour and allow his partner to help him heal. Just as women need to slowly open up sexually within a relationship, men open up over time emotionally. He needs to make sure that when he first cries in front of you, you won’t be repelled or handle it poorly. If you push him away or are unable to be nurturing when he needs it the most, he will no longer trust you with his emotions. He will remove himself somewhat from the relationship. In this instance, both partners lose- he goes on silently suffering and believing that he is flawed in his imperfection, and she is held at arm’s length emotionally.

 

5) Space

Within all of my relationships and the vast majority of my clients, I consistently see that it is the feminine-associated female partner that wants more time spent together and the masculine-associated male partner wanting more time apart. There is no perfect balance to be found here. This will always be a balancing act of closeness and separateness. But rest assured, suffocating a man (either by failing to allow him free time or with overly jealous behaviour) is the fastest way to end a relationship. Men need breathing room in a relationship. We need time for our hobbies, time with our friends, and time to toil away on our projects to feel fulfilled. Traditionally, when women (or the feminine associated partner) needed to solve a problem, they would go further into the tribe – connecting with close friends and family and discussing their issues. Conversely, when men have a problem to solve, they would leave the tribe to be alone with their thoughts. So let him roam. Let him breathe. Leave him to his own devices. A man will be that much happier for you to receive him when he returns, knowing that you trust both him and the strength of your bond enough to let him have his space.

Confession as Woman gives birth to new baby twins – who have two different dads

A woman in New Jersey only discovered that her twins have different fathers after she had DNA testing done to establish paternity when the children were 20 months old.

Hence the man she took to court as the father of her twins has been told to pay child support to only one twin after a judge found those twins have two different fathers.

The ruling came after a woman asked for child support for her twins. However, according to court documents, DNA testing determined the man originally cited as the children’s father was actually only the biological father of one of them.

Because of that, Passaic County Superior Court Judge Sohail Mohammed ruled in family court on May 4 that the unnamed defendant would have to pay child support for the twin he fathered, and he dismissed the unnamed mother’s claim for support of the other child.

Dr. Brooke Rossi, an obstetrician and gynecologist at University Hospitals McDonald’s Women’s Hospital in Cleveland, said while rare, having twins from different fathers can occur naturally.

The phenomenon can occur when a woman produces two eggs during her fertility cycle instead of one, and they can become fertilized and implant within a few days of the same cycle.

“The sperm live in the genital tract for two days,” Rossi said. “It’s possible a woman can have s*x with a man on a Tuesday and have s*x with a different man on Wednesday, and it is possible for [her] to get pregnant,” with twins.

The rare phenomenon is called heteropaternal superfecundation in medical literature. An estimated one in 13,000 paternity cases involves twins with different fathers, according to a 1997 medical journal cited in the court ruling.

Rossi said because fertilization would happen so close together, the fetuses would be the same gestational age and would be expected to be born without any related health complications.

In the New Jersey case, according to the court documents, the mother of the twins said in court she had s*x with two different men around the time she conceived. However, she gave just one name in her petition for child support.

While it’s been a known phenomenon since the 1970s, according to court documents, there have been just two other reported legal cases of twins with different fathers in the U.S.