We hear about it on
the radios and see it on TV talk shows. We just hope it will never happen to
us. Cheating is awful in a relationship. It is devastating and usually leaves
permanent emotional scars if it doesn't end the relationship. Unfortunately
most partners don't know about the cheating until they are told about it by a
caring friend or relative. Here are some definite signs that by themselves may
not be indicative of cheating, but together should send off a big warning
signal that something is going on. Recognizing this cheating early on can save
oneself from much heartache and trouble that will grow the longer it persists.
1. A sudden increase in late night work outside the home and
travel could indicate your partner is cheating on u. It may just be innocent and maybe they have
a new boss making her stay behind for women n for men there must be a sexy new
secretary that they are suddenly paying a lot of attention to. So the best
things to do call him or her at that time you expect such dirty to be
happening.
2. A sudden decrease in sex drive could mean they are getting it
elsewhere. A temporary
reduction in sex drive could just be related to increased stress or job duties.
It could also indicate medical problems that should be referred to a doctor.
Like prostate or urinary trouble. But, a sudden decrease in sex drive equipped
with sudden late night work at the office or work definitely means your lover
might be cheating on u
3. Gets defensive if you ask questions; Beware if he/she acts guilty if you ask
questions or try to probe. Life should be an open book for two individuals in
love and if you're sharing his/her life and /or bed you have a right to certain
answers. If he/she starts acting defensive or gets irritable and wants to avoid
answering you'd better watch out!
4. Wants to go out with his friends exclusively; If he/she keeps making excuses to go out on
dates with you only or be alone with you, your antenna should be up. Also, if
your man keeps wanting to meet with his pals and tell you things like "You
wouldn't be comfortable, it's guys only", you'd do well after a while, to
do a background check with some of those guys he's claiming to go out with.
It's best to appear casual in your questioning though because, in case he's
telling the truth you wouldn't want him to accuse you of snooping around.
5. Unexplained expenditures; If his credit card bill can be fixed at a certain average
amount and it suddenly keeps escalating, he could be buying some lavish gifts
and if you're not on the receiving end, you might like to find out who is.
6. He reeks of perfume that's not yours; If you've got the nose of a bloodhound and you
smell a flowery fragrance on him or if she doesn't smoke yet you keep finding
her reeking of tobacco because she has been with a guy puffing cigar, be on
your guard.
7. If he/she starts paying extra care to his appearance; after being in a relationship for a while,
most people get complacent and start neglecting their appearance. If he/she is
one of those, and suddenly starts taking extra care to be impeccably groomed,
they could be trying to impress someone else.
8. Indifference; If you find your partner indifferent, unresponsive or uncaring
you have a problem on your hands. If he/she is not cheating, you need to anyway
tackle the problem and figure out what it is.
9. Secretive;
If your previously open and communicative partner suddenly goes into a shell
and clams up or starts concealing things from you, be warned.
10. Wants privacy; If he/she wants to be left alone when on the telephone or
stops in the middle of a phone conversation when you enter the room and tells
the caller he/she will call back, ask yourself why?
There many more endless ways to tell a cheating partner but
those are the major ones.
If a relationship has
to be successful, both partners must trust implicitly. It is not healthy to be
wary in a relationship or on your guard all the time. Also, your partner should
exhibit not just one or two but most of the above signs before you begin to
suspect them. You should know your partner well enough to figure out when you
should be suspicious. But then, you also thought you knew them well enough to
think they would never cheat on you.
But be warned,
sometimes, despite thinking we know it all we are dead wrong. Probe beneath the
surface before you assume the worst. Warren, a career-obsessed advertising
executive was exhibiting all the classic signs - coming home late, being
secretive, making calls privately, and running up a huge credit card bill.
Stephanie, married to him for 20 years, began spending sleepless nights until
she discovered that apart from genuinely being held up at work, he was making
arrangements for her surprise 40th birthday party! Hope u have ever read about
that book guys.
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